Don’t tell

 them what

 kind of leader

you are

 

 Show them

 

By Charles R. McConnell

 

When a new boss arrives from outside the organization, whether coming in as chief executive officer or department head or in some lesser managerial capacity, you can usually expect to hear statements like:

 

·       “I’m a participating manager, I value the employee’s contributions.”

·       “Expect to see a lot of me out on the floors and in the departments, where the action is.”

·       “Decisions ought to be made at the lowest possible level in the organization.”

·       “I’m a total quality management (TQM) person.”

·       And the granddaddy of them all, “I believe in being available to employees, so my door is      always open.”

 

Doubtless we can agree that the foregoing few statements embody a number of desirable aspects of modern management behavior. And the new manager, arriving with the best of intentions, surely wants to be seen as employee-conscious and up-to-date with current management thinking. Consider, however, what happens when:

 

·       Months pass, but the manager who claimed to be “participative” has not yet gotten around to securing employee input or has involved only a few employees.

·       The executive who spoke  proudly of “managing by wandering around” is apparently consumed by activity and after months on the job has yet to visit all of the departments.

·       The manager who expressed a belief in decentralization has retained most decision-making authority centrally.

·       The TQM proponent does as many other managers have done, turning all TQM concerns over to subordinates while continuing to function as before.

·       The stated open-door policy is contradicted by an attitude that says the manager is to busy for employees and a schedule such that getting an appointment is next to impossible.

 

A great many well-meaning managers trap themselves by the obvious differences between what they say and what they do. They say the “good” things because they believe they should do so. These are what we are supposed to believe about modern people-centered management. Most of the managers who make such noble statements undoubtedly believe they are saying the right things. Their intentions are commendable. However, it they really believe what they’re saying, why then the contrary behavior? This probably occurs for two primary reasons: making the right moves generally takes more time than doing things the “old” way, and old habits partly formed by residual authoritarian concepts of management tend to take over.

 

Thus the most well-meaning new manager can, once the inevitable “honeymoon” period has passed, appear diminished in the eyes of the employees because of behavior that contradicts the manager’s earlier statements. The new manager who enters the organization repeating the little homilies and catch-phrases associated with modern management practice — as some have described it, “talking Management 101” — is unknowingly creating expectations that will not be completely fulfilled.

 

You may genuinely believe in participative management, for example, but there will be times when a situation demands an authoritarian response. For the most part the employees will not see the reason why you acted different from how you said you would act. They will simply see the contradiction between what you said and what you’ve done, and they will perceive your behavior as failing to meet expectations.

 

What the incoming manager says about himself or herself, about personal beliefs, about espoused management “style,” establishes a base of expectations against which the employees will judge the manager from the first day forward. When those expectations are not completely fulfilled — and rarely can they be completely fulfilled because they are usually expressions of ideals — the employees perceive the manager as less than expected, perhaps even as less than honest. This perception may be neither fair nor absolutely correct, but it will be real. To the perceiver, perception is reality.

 

Far better to begin a relationship with a new group of employees by saying as little as possible about one’s own management style and beliefs. Enough can be said about your background and experience and about what you will attempt to accomplish in this situation without having to get into your self-described management style and beliefs.

 

Employees will forever continue to form perceptions based on a manager’s behavior regardless of what they have heard from or about the manager. If you have given your employees idealized expectations of you, the perceptions they form will include contradictions and will invariably fall short of expectations. However, you can avoid setting yourself up for this condition by simply avoiding all attempts to describe your leadership style to the employees. Regardless of what you say, it will always be your behavior that governs employee perceptions, and what you say in advance of your behavior will not help you and can stand to hurt you.

 

In short, don’t tell employees what kind of manager you are — show them.